The Healing You Are Ready For

The healing you are ready for doesn’t come from changing anything.  It comes from the ability to see and be with what is.

If you are honest with yourself, you will see that the mind you live in believes the opposite of the statement above.  It is a problem factory.  It turns even the smallest things into problems and then spends most of its time trying to figure out how to fix them.  If it isn’t concerned about the new pimple on your chin, it is concerned about how your neighbor mows his lawn. These little concerns mushroom into big concerns like “Will I get cancer?” or “Will they reject me?” or “Will I have anything left in my retirement fund?”

If you watch it, you will see that as soon as the mind solves one problem, it comes up with another.  And if it can’t solve one, it throws us into despair.  I like to say that we are like people sitting in paradise, constantly trying to unravel a ball of yarn – and believing if we just unravel it then everything will be okay.  I have news for you.  Your life will never be okay trying to make it okay!  That is just the game of the problem factory.  And the ball of yarn is endless.

What would it be like to take a break from this endless struggle inside and step out of the problem mode?  What would it be like to know that there is no ball of yarn to unravel?  What would it be like to be able to connect with the ‘paradise’ that is always with you, right here, right now, when you lift your eyes from the ball of struggle.

What allows you to open the door that leads out of struggle is curiosity.  The problem factory is all about trying to control life.  Curiosity is the willingness to look at what is.  When you can look at what you are experiencing without turning it into a problem, magic begins to happen.  This is what Rumi is talking about in his poem The Guest House.  It is one of his best-known poems, but very few people know the last half of it where it says, “Learn the alchemy that few human beings know, that when you accept what difficulties you have been given, a door opens.”  This is talking about the place beyond the problem factory of your mind.

When Eckhart Tolle endorsed my book Belonging to Life, he told me that he liked the two mantras “What is” and “This too”.  “What is” is an invitation to step out of the problem factory and simply notice what is happening right now.  “This too” is an invitation to stop fighting what is and be curious about it instead.

So, I invite you, just for today, notice how much your mind loves to turn everything into a problem.  And for moments, be curious about what is going on right now (What is).  Then give it space to be (This too), so it can move through you and you can rediscover the ‘paradise’ of life that is always right here, right now.